Break the cycle of toxic relationships.
With family & friends. With romantic partners. With yourself.
ONLINE INDIVIDUAL THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIPS BASED IN CHICAGO, SERVING IL, MI, & WI
Now that you’ve gone through losing a few relationships and friendships, you’re noticing the same issues have come up in all of them. And beyond the people you’ve met as an adult, even the interactions you have with your family (particularly your mother) seem to follow the same cycles of arguments and resentment.
At this point, you know there’s one common denominator here, and you’re ready to figure out how you can show up differently in all of your relationships.
Maybe you’re someone who…
Spirals over interactions you have with others, often wondering what they think of you or whether they will stick around.
Is always involved in some kind of relationship drama, whether it’s constant fights with your partner, miscommunication with your friends, or tension with your family that never seems to go away.
Worries there’s something wrong with you or that you might be unlovable, often wondering if you’ll ever find the right person or thinking your partner will leave no matter how much they reassure you.
Keeps walls up and rarely lets anyone in, because as soon as people get to know you better, they end up leaving.
Feels lonely, even when surrounded by people, craving deeper connections but never quite feeling understood.
Sabotages relationships without meaning to, whether by testing your partner’s love, shutting down when things get close, or leaving before someone else can leave you.
Let’s figure out what’s behind these struggles and learn to express your feelings in ways that are productive, not destructive.
HOW WE’LL WORK TOGETHER
Helping you see the blind spots in your relationship patterns & find new ways forward.
Relationships shape the way you see yourself and the world, and sometimes, without realizing it, you carry old wounds into new connections. In therapy, we’ll take a close look at the patterns that keep showing up in your relationships—whether it’s pushing people away, struggling with trust, or feeling like you’re always bracing for the worst. We’ll explore where these patterns come from, especially the relationships that shaped you early on, and start untangling what’s helping you and what’s holding you back.
I’ll challenge you to acknowledge the behaviors that might be keeping you stuck, but I’ll also walk with you as you figure out what trust, connection, and emotional safety really mean for you. We’ll talk about what’s happening right here in our sessions—noticing how you guard yourself, when you pull back, what it feels like to open up—so you can start making different choices in your relationships outside of this space. Over time, you’ll learn how to recognize what’s real and what’s fear, how to express yourself without anger or shutting down, and how to let people in without losing yourself.
We often default to what we know in our relationships—the things we learned in early life show up over and over again in the present until we face them head-on.
Together, we can decide which of those early lessons you want to keep and which you’d rather leave in the past.
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIPS CAN HELP YOU…
Leave the past in the past — Once we’ve identified where your relationship struggles originated, you can start to make decisions more consciously and break the cycles you’ve been stuck in.
Choose and build relationships that actually feel good — Whether it's friendships, family, or romantic relationships, you’ll learn to recognize red flags and respond accordingly before things escalate.
Speak up about your needs and emotions— Practice saying no, asking for what you need, and protecting your energy before resentment builds, so you feel respected in your relationships.
Communicate without engaging in unhealthy conflict — Learn how to express yourself without anger taking over and without causing any unnecessary drama.
Let go of relationships that aren’t good for you — Whether it’s walking away from toxic dynamics or realizing you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel whole, you’ll gain the confidence to make choices that serve you.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Your attachment style is basically the rulebook your brain wrote on relationships based on what you learned growing up. It affects how you connect, how much you trust, and what you expect from others—sometimes in ways you don’t even realize. If relationships always seem to follow the same frustrating patterns, understanding your attachment style can help you figure out why and what to do about it. Therapy can help you rewrite the rules so you stop repeating what isn’t working.
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Nope—relationships aren’t just about romance. I work with people navigating family dynamics, mother-daughter struggles, and friendships that feel just as complicated as romantic ones. If you’re stuck in painful patterns in any relationship, therapy can help you figure out what’s happening and how to shift it.
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Because we repeat what we know, even when it doesn’t serve us. The dynamics you learned growing up—how love, trust, and conflict worked—became your default setting. Without realizing it, you’re drawn to what feels familiar, even if it’s not what’s best for you. Therapy helps you recognize those patterns and make different choices, so you don’t keep walking the same path expecting a different ending.